If there is one thing that I fiercely preach, it is this: leniency. To yourself and to others. It’s not easy and I have to remind myself of it often, because I do forget it. We often know where we need to get to be better people or to be better at relationships. We have […]
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A lot of the help that I found in dealing with difficult aspects of poly, was in resources about non-monogamy. I heard the stories of all of these people who were happy and fulfilled in their multiple relationships and I wanted to get there. Only I did not know how. I guess what I would
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Something I have though a lot about, especially after coming out of my own “dark ages” of poly was that the best thing I got out of poly was a better me. Even if I decide, tomorrow, that I don’t want any more relationships or that I want to be monogamous or that I will
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I sincerely think that in order to thrive in polyamory, we must first take a good, hard look at the culture we were raised in and the fantasy world that made us who we are today. Ideas like finding “the one” and “happily ever after” are something we might recognise as fantasy when we grow
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In case you are not familiar with the idea of the user manual, it is meant as a tool, firstly to help you get to know yourself and really consider aspects of yourself that you might have taken for granted or haven’t really thought about. Secondly, it is an amazing guide book for people in
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It happens more often that you would think. I am having a conversation with someone and we end up talking about polyamory as it is a subject that makes people curious and inquisitive. And we get to a lovely point in the conversation where they ask who is more important in my life. And then I
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