I’ve read it many times, but I think it doesn’t hurt to put this message out here again. So here’s goes my story of love during the pandemic. I am lucky. I am lucky that this pandemic didn’t catch me in a depressive episode. I am lucky that I am “stuck” at home with a […]
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If you are reading my blog and have not figured out what a huge fan of lists I am, then I don’t know what you have even been doing here. But all jokes aside, I have found that a bullet point list is a really great way to improve your approach to conflict and to
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By far the best habit I have formed! Because always taking care of problems and feeling like your entire time is occupied with putting out fires is emotionally exhausting. We can often lose perspective and, at times, I have felt like I was overwhelmed by negative thoughts. The gratitude journal has given me a better
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Having wonderful people to help you along is great, but you can’t and should not always rely on others. You could develop ways to be your own buddy-system and make your own life easier, even when it feels impossible. Becoming your own support is not an easy path, but it is a huge gain to
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Managing your own emotions and unpacking them in a healthy way is easier said than done. When you are in the grip of emotions, making sense of it all can be quite difficult. And often times we might end up saying things that we later regret. But keeping things to yourself if harmful for your
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This has been by far the hardest exercise I have done, from an emotional perspective. It is much easier to look at things in black and white, to see people as good or evil. It is much harder to really make the effort to empathise and understand the perspective of others, especially if you don’t
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Hopefully you have managed to find some resources, online or in print form, to make you feel less alone and offer more perspectives. But those will not always be helpful, especially if you are dealing with specific problems. From time to time, we all need to just get things off our chest and feel heard.
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It took me a long time to understand myself in the context of polyamory, to become really comfortable and build up my confidence. For me, it was not an easy journey, but there have been things that have helped me along the way. And the very first I figured out was focusing on things that
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I named it so, because that is pretty much what it was. It was a list of ideas to read and read again, in case of an emergency freakout. This beautiful list has pulled me out of some pretty dark times and it is very close to my heart. I share it with you in
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Something I have though a lot about, especially after coming out of my own “dark ages” of poly was that the best thing I got out of poly was a better me. Even if I decide, tomorrow, that I don’t want any more relationships or that I want to be monogamous or that I will
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